Tantra is an ancient tradition that has been passed down from Guru to student for millennia. In today's world, where various interpretations and practices of Tantra exist, finding the right teacher or community can be both exciting and challenging. Here are some key insights to help guide your journey.

1. What is Tantra?

The first and most important step is to explore the lineage of the teacher or school you are considering. Tantra is not just a concept—it is a deeply rooted tradition. Ask the following questions:

• Who did you study with?
• What was your transmission?
• What is your school?
• Who was your master?

Understanding the background of your potential teacher will help you determine if their practice aligns with what you are looking for. Tantra can range from deeply spiritual paths to self-development journeys and even temple arts. As a guiding principle: if it does not include meditation, it is probably not Tantra.

2. Do your homework

Your experience with Tantra starts even before you attend a retreat or workshop—it begins with the communication process. Pay attention to how the organizer or teacher interacts with you:

• Do they answer all your questions openly and respectfully?
• Do they make you feel safe discussing vulnerable or edgy topics?
• Are they transparent about what to expect?

If you receive vague answers like, “Don’t worry, we have been doing this for a long time,” or find that they refuse to answer your questions, consider it a red flag. A trustworthy teacher or community should be open, reliable, and willing to engage in a detailed conversation about your concerns.

3. Watch Out for Red Flags

While there are many wonderful and ethical Tantra teachers, it is important to do your research and stay vigilant for red flags. Here are some key steps to ensure you are making the right choice:

• Research: Look up teachers and retreat centers online. Read reviews and seek feedback from past participants.
• Code of Ethics: Many reputable practitioners have a code of ethics on their website or are willing to discuss it openly. Topics to consider include:
• Is the practice rooted in meditation?
• Are facilitators trauma-informed?
• How is consent respected, taught, and integrated into the practice?
• Do facilitators engage physically or romantically with participants?

Trust Your Gut: If something feels off, listen to that intuition.

4. Trust Yourself

Beyond all the rational considerations, one of the most important aspects of choosing your Tantra teacher or tribe is to trust yourself. Often, a simple picture, video, or one sentence from a teacher can evoke a deep sense of knowing. If you feel a strong pull towards a particular person or community, pay attention to that inner voice.

Tantra is a transmission, and who your teacher is, how they embody their own teachings, their stories and personalities are all relevant. It’s really important to resonate deeply with your teacher.. Your inner self has an important role in guiding your journey.

Final Thoughts

Finding the right Tantra teacher or community is a deeply personal process. By focusing on lineage, communication, ethics, and intuition, you can create a safe and fulfilling journey into Tantra. Take your time, do your research, and trust both your intellect and your heart.

For extra guidance on starting your journey, check out my Tantra Starter Kit, where you’ll find valuable insights and resources. If you’re looking for an in-person experience, I also offer workshops in London where you can deepen your understanding in a supportive environment.