Do you find yourself longing for more spark, more passion, more fire in your relationship? Perhaps a deeper love, more romance, more butterflies? Whether you’re looking to spice things up, connect on a deeper level, or reach divine ecstasy together, tantric practices can transform your relationship in ways you never imagined. Tantra practices can help you deepen intimacy and awaken your inner sex god or goddess. Let’s explore how these ancient techniques can bring you and your partner closer than ever.

Understanding Tantra

But what is Tantra?. Tantra originated thousands of years ago in Asia, and is a spiritual path that emphasises, amongst other things, the union of masculine and feminine energies. While we often picture it as being a sexual path, it’s actually much more than that:  it’s about liberation, unity, and embracing the sacredness of every moment. Unlike the Kama Sutra, which focuses on sexual positions, Tantra is a holistic practice that encompasses mind, body, and spirit. So, if you’ve ever thought Tantra was just about cosmic orgasms - well that’s true and great, but it’s also a fascinating journey of self-discovery and connection that can elevate your relationship to new heights.

Setting the Stage for Tantric Practices

A wonderful step to start with your journey is to set up a special space where you can feel both enchanted and focused. Creating a sacred space is a beautiful practice in itself and will serve you immensely time and time again. Clean, declutter and add elements that speak to your senses: candles, flowers, soft light, nice organic scents, etc. Emotional preparation is just as important. Set your intentions together, and most importantly let go of any expectations. This is a time to be fully in the present moment, relaxed, and open to whatever unfolds.

Preparing Your Mind and Body

Before diving into tantric exercises, it’s crucial to prepare your mind and body. Start with some meditation or mindfulness techniques to centre yourselves. This helps you relax and become fully present with each other. Remember, Tantra is about being in the moment, so take a deep breath, let go of the day’s stresses, and focus on the connection you’re about to explore. 

Tantric Exercises for Couples

Now that you’ve set the stage and prepared your minds and bodies, you can fully dive into some tantric exercises that can deepen your connection and awaken your inner sex god or goddess. These practices are designed to cultivate intimacy, enrich communication, and create a sense of unity between you and your partner.

1. Eye Gazing

One of the simplest yet most powerful practices is eye gazing. This exercise helps you connect on a deeper level without the need for words and through your senses, as often in Tantra. Here’s how to do it:

• Sit facing each other in a comfortable position.
• Take a few deep breaths together to centre yourselves.
• Soften your gaze and look into each other’s eyes for a few minutes. If it feels challenging, you can start with shorter intervals. Watch and feel your partner’s soul.
• Allow any emotions that arise to surface—this could be joy, laughter, or even tears.

Benefits: Eye gazing deepens emotional intimacy and enhances non-verbal communication, allowing you to connect beyond the physical.

2. Breath Synchronisation

Then you can go into breath synchronisation, a practice that encourages you to align your energy and create a sense of unity. Here’s how to do it:

• Sit comfortably facing each other, holding hands or placing a hand on each other’s heart.
• Start by taking a few deep breaths together, inhaling and exhaling at the same time.
• Once you feel in sync, try alternating your breathing. One partner inhales while the other exhales, then switch.
• You can also incorporate sound by chanting “om” together as you breathe.

Benefits: This practice helps create a deep sense of connection and harmony, allowing you to feel more in tune with each other. It connects partners on an energetic and personal frequency level.

3. Sensual Touch

Now, let’s explore the art of sensual touch. This practice is all about being present and enjoying the sensations of your partner’s body.This is a fabulous opportunity to experience touch without expectations. 

• Set the mood with soft music and dim lighting.
• Take turns giving each other a sensual massage, focusing on areas that hold tension.
• Use different textures, temperatures, and pressures to explore each other’s bodies. Start with the slowest and softest touch that you can master.
• Remember to breathe deeply and stay present in the moment.

Benefits: Sensual touch enhances intimacy and helps you both become more aware of each other’s bodies, leading to greater pleasure. It also unlocks your sensuality and your energetic body.

4. Yab-Yum Position

The Yab-Yum position is a classic and sacred tantric practice that fosters closeness and connection by aligning all the chakras. 

• Sit facing each other with your legs intertwined, one partner sitting on the other’s lap.
• Wrap your arms around each other, holding each other close.
• Focus on synchronising your breath and maintaining eye contact.
• You can also incorporate gentle rocking movements to enhance the experience, and/or connect your third eyes.

Benefits: This position encourages intimacy and allows for energy circulation between partners, creating a deeper connection and allowing for many Tantric magical soulmate phenomena to manifest.

Advanced Tantric Concepts

If you feel like going deeper on your Tantric journey, it’ll be very useful for you to dive into a few advanced concepts. These ideas will get you into a different realm of practice and relating, and help you tap into the infinite potential of your intimate experiences as a couple.

1. Chakra Activation

Understanding and activating your chakras is a key to go into more complex practices. Chakras are energy centres in your body that influence your physical, emotional, and spiritual well-being. Here’s how to incorporate chakra activation into your intimacy:

• Identify the Chakras: Familiarise yourselves with the seven main chakras and their corresponding colours, emotions, and parts of the body. Learn to relate chakras with areas of your life.

• Focus on Energy Flow: During your tantric practices, visualise energy flowing through each chakra. You can even place your hands on each other’s chakras to enhance the connection.

• Breath into each of them, bringing focus and energy into each point. 

• Use Color and Sound: Incorporate colours and sounds associated with each chakra to deepen the experience. For example, use red for the root chakra and chant “LAM” to activate it.

Benefits: Activating your chakras can lead to a more profound self knowledge, energetic connection, enhancing pleasure and intimacy.

2. Energy Orgasms

Moving beyond physical orgasms, energy orgasms are a powerful aspect of Tantra. These experiences can be deeply fulfilling and transcend the physical realm. Here’s how to explore energy orgasms:

• Focus on Energy Flow: During your practices, concentrate on the sensations of energy moving through your body. Visualise it rising from your root chakra to your crown chakra.

• Breath and Sound: Use breath and sound to amplify the energy. Experiment with deep breathing and vocalisations to release built-up energy.

• Let Go of Expectations: Allow the experience to unfold naturally without focusing solely on achieving orgasm. Embrace the sensations and energy flow.

Benefits: Energy orgasms can lead to heightened states of ecstasy and connection, allowing you to experience intimacy in a whole new way. They can last for hours, and correlate with modified states of consciousness and sometimes visions.

3. Sacred Sexuality Rituals

Creating your own sacred sexuality rituals can add depth and intention to your tantric practice. Here’s how to design a ritual that resonates with both of you:

• Set Intentions: Begin by discussing what you want to achieve through the ritual, whether it’s deepening intimacy, exploring new sensations, or simply celebrating your connection.

• Incorporate Elements: Use elements like fire (candles), water (a bath), or earth (crystals) to enhance the experience. Each element can bring its own energy to your ritual.

• Create a Sacred Space: Dedicate a space in your home for your rituals, where you can feel safe and connected. Decorate it with items that hold significance for both of you.

Benefits: Sacred sexuality rituals can help you cultivate a deeper sense of purpose and connection in your intimate life, making each experience feel special and intentional. Rituals are magical and powerful because they speak to your primal brain, your unconscious mind. Let me know if you’d like any adjustments to these sections or if you’re ready to move on to the next part!

The Benefits of Tantric Practices

Now that you’ve explored various tantric exercises and advanced concepts, let’s take a moment to discuss the incredible benefits these practices can bring to your relationship. Embracing Tantra can lead to profound changes in how you connect with each other, both physically and emotionally.

1. Physical Benefits

Tantric practices can significantly enhance your physical intimacy in several ways:

• Increased Stamina and Sexual Function: By focusing on breath control and energy flow, you can improve your stamina and overall sexual performance. Many couples find that they can last longer and enjoy more fulfilling sessions.
• Enhanced Sensitivity and Pleasure: Mindful touch and sensual exploration heighten awareness of your body and your partner’s body. This increased sensitivity can lead to more intense and pleasurable experiences.
• Improved Sexual Health: Engaging in regular tantric practices can help alleviate issues like premature ejaculation or difficulty achieving orgasm. The focus on relaxation and connection can also reduce performance anxiety.
   

2. Emotional Benefits

The emotional rewards of practising Tantra are just as significant:

• Deeper Trust and Intimacy: As you engage in these practices, you’ll likely find that your emotional connection deepens. Trust builds as you explore each other’s bodies and vulnerabilities, creating a safe space for intimacy.
• Improved Communication: Tantra encourages open and honest communication about desires, boundaries, and feelings. This can lead to healthier discussions about intimacy and a greater understanding of each other’s needs.
• Enhanced Emotional Connection: The practices help you connect on a deeper emotional level, liberating feelings of love, compassion, and understanding. This emotional bond can enhance your overall relationship.
  
  

3. Spiritual Benefits

Finally, the spiritual aspects of Tantra can provide a deeper sense of purpose and connection:

• Connecting with a Higher Purpose: Many couples find that Tantra helps them connect with something greater than themselves. This can lead to a sense of shared purpose and a deeper appreciation for each other.
• Experiencing Transcendent States: Engaging in tantric practices can lead to moments of transcendence, where you feel a profound sense of unity with your partner and the universe. These experiences can be deeply fulfilling and transformative.

By embracing these benefits, you and your partner can awaken your inner sex god or goddess and create a more fulfilling and intimate relationship. 

Overcoming Common Challenges

As you embark on your tantric journey, you might encounter some challenges. Don't worry—this is completely normal! Here are some common hurdles and how to overcome them:

• Self-consciousness or Shame: This is totally normal, just remember that Tantra is about acceptance and love. Start slowly, be patient with yourself, and communicate openly with your partner about any insecurities.
• Different Levels of Interest: If one partner is more enthusiastic than the other, take it slow. Start with simple exercises and gradually build up to more advanced practices.
• Physical Limitations: Tantra can be adapted to suit various physical abilities. Focus on the aspects you can do comfortably, and don't hesitate to consult a professional for guidance.
  
  

Integrating Tantra into Daily Life

Tantra isn't just for the bedroom—it's a way of life! Here are some ways to incorporate tantric principles into your daily routine:

• Morning Connection: Start your day with a few minutes of synchronised breathing or eye gazing.
• Mindful Touches: Practise being present and intentional with everyday touches, like holding hands or hugging.
• Gratitude Practice: Take time each day to express appreciation for your partner, focusing on specific qualities or actions.

Remember, even small, consistent practices can have a profound impact on your relationship.

Conclusion

Congratulations! You've taken the first steps towards awakening your inner sex god/goddess and deepening your connection through Tantra. Remember, this is a journey—not a destination. Be patient with yourselves and enjoy the process of discovery and growth together.

As you explore these practices, you may find that your relationship transforms in ways you never imagined. The increased intimacy, improved communication, and deeper connection can ripple out into all aspects of your life together.

Start slowly, be consistent, and most importantly, have fun! Tantra is about joy, pleasure, and connection. Embrace the journey with an open heart and mind, and watch as your relationship blossoms into something truly magical.

Ready to take your tantric journey to the next level? Consider attending a workshop together or booking a session with a tantric coach. The possibilities for growth and connection are endless!

Remember, you're not just lovers—you're divine beings capable of experiencing profound love and connection. Embrace your inner sex god/goddess and let the magic of Tantra transform your relationship!